First and most important of all, if you are wondering about this question, there is huge chance that you are not in a relationship, because if you are, he shouldn’t have put you in such an awkward situation at the first place. A person who truly wants to develop a real relationship with you would never put you on hold or let you guessing how he feels about you. It is very possible that he enjoys being with you, while still doesn’t like you enough to have a relationship with.
How did you start? If the first tip doesn’t give you a certain answer, you can ask yourself, how did you start at the beginning. Like, where did you meet? How do you end up in such circumstance? For example, if you meet at a party or through a common friend, it might be the start for a possible relationship, because you did not really intentionally meet each other with the purpose of getting laid or finding a hookup. But if you met at online hookup apps or in a bar where people usually find one night hookup, your relationship might still remain as hookup relationship. Once two persons encounter with clear purpose of hooking up, it can be hard for them to revert their mind, because in their perspective, they are just hookup partner for each other, not really the candidate of their future significant other. How you meet matters a great deal for a relationship.
Do you know what you are looking for in this period of your life? Does your partner know what he/she is looking for? Do you know? If you two are not so sure about what you are looking for, it shows that you are bot really ready for relationships or you are on hold until the right one comes. Given the fact that you are still wondering about this question, then I think you also are not sure if this is the right person. How can it be a relationship when you don’t know for sure if this is the person you want?
How do you feel about this relationship? Is this relationship your priority? First, ask yourself and then think about your partner. You need to know for sure if you really care about him/her enough to have a relationship with, and then think about your partner the same. What if you need him to be with you tomorrow while he made plans to be with him friends? How would he choose? Being in a relationship means that you need to take each other as priority. If you are not there for each other when need, what is the point?
Is he still keeping those online tinder hookup app in his phone? If he does, will he still use them once for a while? A person who is into someone will not be looking for another. If he still keeps his online hookup apps or he still flirt with other people even in front of you, it is definitely just a hookup and nothing more. Neither does he have the intention to have a relationship with you.
Sometimes when we are emotionally attached to someone, we would ignore some obvious sign, trying to build us a positive result in mind. However, no matter what you think and how you view your status, we cannot change the fact if it is not the case.